Hair
The more I watch
weird documentaries the more it dawns on me how similar at some level human
beings are, yet so different when it comes to our thinking , I mean for example which straight guy can say out
loud that they believe in mermaids , still a promo on BET has an African guy
saying out load that he believes in mermaids and his actually making a movie/documentary about
it , huh .. aint that a bitch ….
Mind limits can be seen as something negative or even fall
under the classification of folks who just prefer things done their way and not
try new things ,as they have psychological fears
which prevent them from moving past their own fears . The debate about
African hair vs weaves is rooted so deep that most women believe that hair
defines them and their natural hair is something that must just never be seen
by their men/boyfriends .
I have rocked an afro as a kid, dreadlocks for 8 years ,
been bold ,rocked short hair, rocked gugu gaga weaves/braids when I felt like
it, know why ?? because I wanted to
!!, I never allowed hair to define who I am or how another spirit sees me , as my personality/
Ubuntu bami should define who I am , not my hair or how I look ( but I know
looks work faster than actually using your brain these days and judgment is passed solely on
how a person looks, as they say in the entertainment industry “branding is everything!!
“ meaning you can even loose sight of who you are for the sake of “branding” )
. The one thing I have experienced while
I had dreadlocks was folks assuming that
I had weed all the time, guys falling in love with the fact that I have
dreadlocks as appose to actually seeing me as I am fully , then had my ex-boss at
one point asking me to make sure that I keep my locks clean so that I
might appear sane ….( i.e not look like I am about to pop up weed! but eventually he got used to my hair at that
time)
I have a few views on hair, the first one is the fact that
women allow men to decide how they should look
and what looks hot on them and that’s bullshit!!!, I mean you will have
a chubby/normal looking guy saying to a very beautiful woman that he thinks she
would look much beautiful if she had long hair or had dreadlocks like Lauren
Hill ( back in 1998) or she must never ever rock short hair , again I think
that is bullshit period!!! .
Then you have the media/entertainment industry portraying
these ideas on to girls that if you don’t rock an expensive weave then you are
not attractive enough, then add on the “Conscious folks” who will say you are
not African enough because you’re not rocking your own natural hair , I mean
what are all these young and old women to think
other than have WTF moments and identity crisis , why do sooooo many
folks/men have an opinion on hair???? Again WTF??
I personally think that black women ( as this issue really
affects us most) should rock whatever style they think suites them ( it’s bad enough we have to struggle with
growth), just not be define by it or what your boyfriend/man thinks , as end of
the day if someone is with you solely on the fact that you have the kind of
hair they like and that’s it , girl running shoes on ( that’s all I am
saying…) , also we live in a culture that wants to classify
everything ,define everything , again pure bullshit!!. Women are hard on
themselves and each other and until we sort that out , men will always have
some control over our self esteem and funny thing about self esteem is “it’s a
self thing” yet ends up being influenced by so many spirits who just want a dip
in the cookie jar .
In my eyes I know I am so much more than my hair and if
someone else fails to see it# then they can
F*** off period !!!
Love
B.
