The downside
of progress & change
As they say
“change is the only thing that is constant in this world “, yet as humans we
try by all means to fight and rebel against it , we find reasons to stay in our
limiting ways ,we have grown fond of , we justify why things shouldn't change
because they have been done a certain way & how dare we start now and
change things . Thing is though if one can’t flow with the changes you will
never outgrow the old you, see beyond your circumstances & even embrace new
people
In my
opinion change has the ability to bring out the worst in people , insecurities
start creeping out, egocentric vibes start taking over humble spirits ,
personality clashes have their mini parties , the devil literally has Christmas
at our expense just because change freaks people out and also cripples the mind
in a weird kind of way. There are those that adjust well to change based on
their intellectual level & complexity to adapt to situations even when they
are uncomfortable ,yet even those struggle with change but soon get into the
vibe of change , then its endless
possibilities .
Eight months ago I made a decision to resign &
start afresh, venture on to new possibilities, I had no idea that I would end
up working for a manufacturing company , let alone be the only black female
holding a Management position & surrounded by men only . I must admit it
was intriguing to me and felt like good timing to make the change and just see
what else could be out there for me in Jo’burg , little did I know that being a
young woman & managing men comes with a lot of challenges & chauvinistic attitudes that are hidden
behind bullshit justifications.
The fighter
in me just embraced the opportunity but the realist in me knew that this will
be no piece of cake , indeed it was a challenge & still is but I am determined
to not allow rigid attitudes & mature men who are insecure , scared of
change determine the outcome of this chapter in my life . It’s bad enough
racial issues are in the mix , add black cultural issues of traditionalist who
don’t see themselves being managed by a young women . This shit called change is intense, heavy and
hard to deal with , men in this country especially black men both educated
& nun educated , cannot digest the idea
of a strong woman at some level they want control & power.
The battle I
face & will still face next year is to bring about change & deal with
stuck up attitudes from men who literally want to see me break , fail &
eventually quit , but unfortunately for them I am stronger than I look &
there’s nothing I know better than to deal with delusional individuals who
are scared of change & progression .
New Year’s
resolutions or not , change will happen any ways in our lives , friendship
dynamics change , careers change , life plans get distracted with beautiful
surprises , sometimes not so beautiful but change will always find its way into
our lives , even if we don’t initiate it ourselves .
Love
Brenda
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